Insecurity is an awful feeling. People can be insure about so many things – Career, family, friends, relationships etc. Why are people insecure? Is it because they don’t have confidence in themselves? Yes, that is for sure. Insecurity brings out the worst out of a person. How do insecure people tend to react? They are in a constant mission of putting down people whom they consider as a threat, so as to promulgate their caliber and worthiness.
These people are mostly self-conceited and bombastic in nature. They tend to tell lies and indulge in gossip. This kind of scenario is more prevalent in corporate environment – more so the case of your immediate bosses. If your immediate boss feels that you have more skills and are technically sound than him, he goes on the defensive. He tries to deride you in front of others, mostly in a meeting or the likes of it. You might have felt as to what kind of a person he is? But, it is his insecurity that makes him act like that.
What about insecurity about friends, family and relationships? The basic principle remains the same. You don’t have confidence in the bond, and you feel that any time it might break. Why so? Something would have happened in your life that makes you feel that you are not worthy of the relationship. You have a feeling that they are too good for you. But, you never let the others feel how much they mean to you. In due course you become callous and insensitive. You constantly try to make the others feel that they are not the only one that you need to hang, and there are so many people waiting to be your friend or whatever.
In a way, this holds good for almost everybody at point or the other. When I kick-started my professional life, my boss did precisely what you have mentioned :)
ReplyDeleteHis only objective was: I have not grown; so, let nobody in my team grow. It was suffocating. But, that's the way it is in corporate world. You like it or not- oblige your boss (whether he is right or wrong)only to grow higher than the rest..but, definitely not higher than your own boss :)
Nope, we need to come out of it. We are scared that if we do that our professional image gets spoiled. If we get enough courage to tell it out exactly what we feel about them, am sure they will behave properly. Sometimes, we need to break the protocols, I feel. Never be submissive to anyone. We are our own boss. No one has the right to control us, except God!!
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